衣贵洁，不贵华

衣贵洁，不贵华。

一天，孔子对儿子孔鲤感叹道:“君子是不可以不学习的，与人会面是不可以不加修饰的，仪容不加修饰就会显得不整洁，仪容不整洁就显得对别人不尊重，对别人不尊重就显得失礼，人一失礼就难以在这个世界上处事。那些站在很远的地方就显出光彩的，是仪容修饰得整洁的人，与人接近而能让人心中亮堂的，是有渊博学问的人。”

孔鲤听后问道:“您的意思是说，君子一定要善于修饰自己了。可是您不是一直教导我说君子只要保持本质就可以了，不需要讲究文采的吗?”孔子说:“鲤啊,文采如同本质一样重要,文质彬彬才能成为一个君子。如果一个人过于质朴，缺少文采的话，就会显得粗俗，但是也不能不讲究文采，如果一个人文采多于质朴的话，他就会流于虚伪、浮夸。花言巧语，伪装和善，这种人是很少有什么仁德的。只有质朴与文采配合恰当，这才是个君子啊!”

Clothes should be clean, and not superficial

One day, Confucious told his son Kong Li, "Gentlemen have to learn and be educated, and have to be polite to the people they meet, if not they'll give them the impression that they are not gentlemanly, and will appear disrespectful, and unmannered, and disrespectful and unmannered people will not be successful in life. If you see people at a distance that emanate brightness, that is because they dress appropriately, and when standing close to a person will let the person feel happy, they are educated and wise."

Kong Li digested this information then asked, "So you mean that, I have to dress myself up nicely. But didn't you always tell me that I as long as I have my personable charm around me it was fine, and I didn't have to be elegant in appearance." Confucius replied, "Ah, my son, An elegant appearance and characteristic quality are both important, but being elegant and refined in manner will allow you to become a good man. If a person was very modest and down-to-earth,

but lacked elegance, they would look quite ungainly, and yet they can still strive for an elegant look, but if a person has more looks than charisma, they will be misled. Deceiving words, camouflages kindness, and these kinds of people usually are not kindhearted. They only have character and appearances to match with appropriately, only this can make up a gentleman!"